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stimmystuffs:

hot take… “let men show platonic affection towards each other without saying they’re gay” is useless and bad discourse and we should instead focus on gay men not being seen as gross and wrong

the stigma towards men showing affection towards each other…is caused by homophobia

I’ve been thinking about this and tbh the overwhelming majority of things men are shamed for doing are things associated with gay men. The societal pressure for men to not show emotions outside of anger, to not dress in bright colors, to not have fulfilling platonic friendships with women, to not be physically affectionate with men, etc is homophobia. In all those thinkpieces about how patriarchy limits men— I mean you can argue homophobia is part of patriarchy more broadly, but— it’s really specifically homophobia that is restricting men.