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Just so we’re all clear, it is okay to miss people you no longer want in your life.

this is so important

some people genuinely have trouble with never being told this. i am reblogging this post in case that includes any of you in my audience.

You’re missing the memories, not the person them self

You miss the person you thought they were, not who they turned out to be, and that’s okay.

And/or you miss the person they were sometimes, not the person they were other times. You can miss someone being fun and funny and charming, and not miss the same person being spiteful and cutting and manipulative.

Just like you could miss the taste of a food you’re allergic or sensitive to, without the gastric or respiratory stress that comes with eating it.

You can even miss the bad stuff.

Even if it was bad, it was familiar and without that familiarity in your life you could miss it. It doesn’t mean you want to go back to it, because it was still bad, but not having it there can cause an uneasy gap in experience vs expectation and that’s okay.