dellanfere:

dellanfere:

this is just a personal opinion but: 

i already think most people on tumblr know trans men experience misogyny before we realise we’re men, and know that we continue to experience misdirected misogyny if we don’t pass. cis people get this. trans people get this. we all get this. we don’t need to make a million posts about it. every post i see about this has been used by TERFs as “proof” that trans women don’t experience misogyny, or worse, oppress women for being trans.

instead of trans men, do you know who society refuse to acknowledge actually DO experience misogyny? trans women.

if trans guys could reblog more posts about how trans women experience misogyny after AND BEFORE they pass as women, and less about how trans men totally do also experience misogyny even when they pass as men, i think we’d make a better impact on combatting transphobia as a whole, and specifically transmisogyny. because society think trans women experience male privilege and trans men don’t, when the opposite is true (YES, even if trans men experience an alternative to cis male privilege, we’re still more privileged than trans women). by acknowledging that trans men are men and should be held to the same standards as cis men, we also acknowledge trans women are women and experience the same hardships as cis women experience. 

saying that trans women are different from cis women is more harmful to trans women, than saying trans men are the same as cis men is harmful to trans men.

i want everyone, and specifically young trans men, to consider: 

1) i’m a trans man, i know what we go through for being trans. that doesn’t make transmisandry a real tangible thing that trans men experience, because for transmisandry to exist, misandry must exist. men aren’t oppressed for being men; neither is trans men oppressed for being men. women are oppressed for being women; trans women are oppressed for being women.

2) never in my post do i say that trans men should stop talking completely about their experiences, but it’s suspicious to see how you men react to when someone says you should tone it down and let other voices be heard (even if that someone is also a man). if you really care about trans women, and as you say, “can care about two things at the same time”, why are you so mad this post was made? doesn’t this fall under your second thing to care about?

3) no, we shouldn’t ignore that TERFs use our posts about “not being like cis men” to use against trans women in a “trans women aren’t real women” way. TERFs don’t harm trans men the same way as they harm trans women; they think, at most, that we’ve been “brainwashed” by the patriarchy or by trans women to transition. they actively are violent against trans women. there’s a difference there, and we need to protect trans women

because 4) trans women are statistically far more likely to experience violence in their life as a result of transphobia. this doesn’t mean trans men don’t experience transphobia or violence, but to ignore the reality that we’re more privileged than trans women is transmisogynic and harmful

5) trans men might not access full male privilege the way cishet (white) men do, but so don’t a lot of cis men either. gay men don’t experience the same kind of male privilege as a straight man does; black men don’t experience the same kind of male privilege white men does. this doesn’t mean they don’t experience any male privilege–they might not access it fully, but they still access it. just like trans men do.