Like. I’m a firm believer that porn online shouldn’t be within kids reach (those “are you 18” checkboxes for life) but. Like. Ok first of all, just ban cp? It’s not hard? Cp is what got you into this mess just ban it. Second of all, you could increase the age of sign-up from 13 to 18. Third of all, you could do what deviantart does and just. Require birthdays at sign-up. If your blog is flagged as nsfw, you can’t interact with minors. You want to follow an nsfw blog? Prove you’re an adult. You’re an adult but don’t want to see nsfw content? Safe search (that actually works).
It’s not hard to make a functioning website, but staff doesn’t seem to want to do that.
“But people lie about their age” YEAH PEOPLE LIE ABOUT THEIR AGE TO DO ALL KINDS OF SHIT. WHEN I WORKED AT THE GROCERY STORE PEOPLE LIED ABOUT THEIR AGE TO GET BEER. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? WE DIDN’T BAN ALL BEER, WE REQUIRED AN ID CHECK, YES, KNOWING THAT SOME PEOPLE WOULD LIE. BECAUSE THE FAULT WAS THEIRS BECAUSE THEY LIED.
It’s not even “we’re banning all beer”. It’s more like “we’ve set up an algorithm to flag potentially suspicious drinks at checkout for banning, an algorithm that has already caught three papayas, a snickers bar, and Terry the bag boy who got a little too close to the cash register on Tuesday.”
Meanwhile an actual gang of fucking Nazis has set up camp in the produce aisle, and the manager is pretending not to notice them because he thinks they might buy something one of these days.
My mother suffers from migraines that are often triggered by scent. This can range anywhere from cleaning products, scented garbage bags, cologne/perfume and so on. As such, she’s had to ask for accommodations in the facility she works. This has included wearing surgical masks, industrial respirators, and having a perfume/cologne free work environment.
Here’s the thing, since receiving the accommodations, my mother has gone to the hospital more than six times for perfume exposure. Why? Because her co-workers deliberately wear excess amounts of perfume or cologne to trigger her migraines because they believe their right to wear perfume outweighs her right to live. This is not an exaggeration, my mother’s doctors have repeatedly stated that any one of these incidents could actually kill her.
Oh, and let me be clear, these are deliberate incidents. These are documented grievances with witnesses. Witnesses who saw co-workers put on perfume before interacting with my mother or workers deliberately crossing in my mother’s work area despite not even working in the area. Workers who have admitted to exposing her on purpose. Even worse, some of those who’ve exposed her are supervisors.
People don’t believe my mother when she says her migraines are triggered by scent. Because they can’t see it, they don’t think it can possibly be that bad. It has taken her literally being hauled off in ambulance for some people to understand the severity of her condition.
Illnesses or disabilities, whether visible or not, are not jokes. Don’t play with someone else’s health or well being. It’s fucked up.
When I was in training for my current job, there was a girl in my class who was ALWAYS putting on body sprays and scented lotions, despite the fact that there’s a rule against that on the site. Whatever, it wasn’t enough to bother me.
Until one day it was, and I had an asthma attack in the morning (thank the lord for people willing to share their inhaler with a broke kid with no scrip) and felt a second one coming in later and had to leave early despite some pretty strict attendance rules. (In fairness my trainer basically just didn’t report it so I didn’t get penalized for it for which I am eternally grateful.)
She was spoken to privately and the whole class was reminded about the rule and for 2 days she didn’t wear any. Day 3, she’s back at it again. So hey, I thought, maybe she just doesn’t get there are ACTUAL health issues happening. So on a break, after she’d started chatting with me and a couple other people, I asked: “hey, I’m not trying to be a pain but could you maybe not wear your body spray and scented lotion while we’re in the training room? It’s just a really enclosed space and I actually had an asthma attack the other day because the scents were triggering it.”
She rolled her eyes as if I’d asked for her to sit on the fucking moon or something. “Well I only put body spray on before I leave the house” not true “and my hands get dry so I have to use lotion.”
“Okay,” I said. “But like… maybe just not for the rest of the week? And then we’ll be out of training.”
“…but my hands will get dry.”
And then I might’ve given her a disgusted look and said “they make unscented lotion” and walked away.
But yeah. DONT BE THAT PERSON. I had a LITERAL GODDAMN ASTHMA ATTACK and her response was basically “who cares?”
Don’t be that person.
Here’s another fun one:
At my old job as a telephone captionist, there were really strict rules in place regarding what you can and cannot have or do at your cubicle, because we’re dealing with people’s private conversations and any interference can be seen as a legal breech of callers’ basic rights under American law.
One of these restrictions is “no doing your makeup or attending to hygiene, not even while you’re not on a call.” Because it’s a distraction for the captionist, it’s a distraction for the people around the captionist, and just seriously who does that at their desk?! Anyway, this includes everything from using toothpicks to applying lipstick to nail clipping (yes people did it) to brushing your hair. Anything that makes noise, mess, or smell is a no.
Part of my job was to train people, and sometimes that involved supervising captionists who had failed a review recently to see if I could figure out what was going on. I was assigned to do this one night and we were having a perfectly normal session, captionist said they were getting headaches sometimes and thought maybe they were just getting tired because it’s third shift. Captionist wasn’t having any issues while I was with them… Until we were suddenly both becoming aware of an oncoming powerful headache. And I smelled something.
Sure enough, one aisle over, someone was painting their damn nails at their desk. I reported them, and found out that they had been warned about this more than once.
Even if you’re not dealing with someone who’s allergic, be aware of the chemicals you’re putting on yourself and how aggressive they can be. This chick’s nail polish was causing two people to get painful headaches from 20 feet away in a relatively open area.
The transwoman they had on the show was also an AIDS activist, and had AIDS herself… *and* in a time when there was MUCH greater social stigma around the disease. Lucy had her on, and kissed her on screen…during a time when people were still afraid of getting AIDS from kissing or from toilet seats.
They also had Alexis Arquette as a character on the show in a later season.
I love all the reblog facts!!!
The episode is 2×11, “Here She Comes Miss Amphipolis,” and the actress was Karen Dior.
as a former pageant kid the amount of emotional abuse i went through because of my mother always pushing me to be beautiful and then blaming me and hating me when i didnt win was fucked up. being a pageant kid gave me an eating disorder and has seriously fucked with my self esteem. don’t put your kids through this. don’t let your 5 year old be objectified by others and yourself.
there’s not really much discussion of child neglect on here so i guess i have to do it
p l e a s e don’t shame neglect survivors for not knowing “basic” things like how to eat a balanced diet, when to go to the doctor, how to drive, etc. you know these things (usually) because a caring adult taught them to you. we didn’t have that. we often enter adulthood knowing jack shit about how to take care of ourselves. we know we’re missing information, and we feel so fucking lost.
it’s okay to, if you have a friend who’s experienced neglect, try and help them learn how to take care of themselves. saying things like “hey, do you think you could try to eat at least one vegetable per day?” or “that infection looks pretty bad, do you want to go to a doctor?” is genuinely helpful. but belittling us for not already knowing these things is completely unproductive and unnecessarily cruel.
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